Abuse is never Okay.

Sometimes something's are best left SAID. Not just to make a point but to make yourself feel better. I am witness to a situation of a break up and abuse. And she felt threatened and expected solidarity. So, she cried a lot. And a lot of friends she thought really cared started doubting her fully. May be they were bored because she cried so much. And there's nothing they could have done anyway.

She told them that he had abused her and their reactions were wide-ranging. But definitely unexpected.
1. He might have the same allegations.
2. He is abusing because of tremendous stress that he is in.
3. Just relax & go talk to your parents if you can't take it anymore.
4. Breakups are hard, we can't blame him for being abusive.

In those few sentences, it was clear what she meant to those friends. She felt like a project who had no utility anymore. Although they might not have felt it to this extent. She felt pretty unloved. And that's okay, although, and it's pretty clear now that : end of love (or whatever it was) is much easier than breaking of trust. End of love easier than perceived disloyalty.

It is also important to point out that : abusing is never okay. It's not okay if someone is stressed in their life. It's not okay of they are facing a problem. It's not a small thing. It's not something to be defended or overlooked.

Please, it's not okay.